Having a threesome is one of the most common fantasies in men, including those who practice monogamy. There’s something about adding someone, not something new in the mix that makes the thought really exciting and different, especially if you’ve been with your current partner for a long time and need to add some salt and pepper to your sex life. Having a threesome is a hot and fun experience that doesn’t come with any string attached and, as long as your partner is alright with the idea, you can look forward to some exciting times. But this begs the question: how do you find the third partner for a threesome? We’re here to help you out.

Who you shouldn’t have a threesome with

One of the biggest mistakes that couples make is turning to one of their acquaintances, simply because they know them. Unless you know an outgoing, sexually open minded single person, you should avoid inviting them to a threesome, because things might get weird. He/she could be offended, take it the wrong way, or develop feelings after the threesome. Threesomes are great, but they can ruin relationships if you do them with the wrong people. Don’t choose the opposite extreme either and pick up a random stranger at a bar. On the one hand, you don’t know anything about their sexual history and might get STDs and, on the other hand, there is a possibility you might have common friends and you never know how they spread the word.

Hiring an escort is the way to go

This may be a bit out of your comfort zone, but hiring a professional escort is your best bet if you want to experience the best threesome ever. Here’s why:

 -    Escorts have test for sexually transmitted diseases regularly, so it’s much safer than hooking up with a stranger at a bar.

 -    Escorts offer you 100% discretion. She’ll never talk about it with anyone and if you want to keep your little adventure secret, you can. Escorts have a lot of clients and even if your encounter consists of erotic fun, they’ll still be very professional about it.

 -    An escort knows what she’s doing. If you and your partner have never been in a threesome before, you’ll probably be nervous and awkward. But, if you have a third partner who knows all about the secrets of a ménage a trois, you’ll feel much more comfortable and relaxed. You’ll even learn new things and get some ideas for your future experiences.

 Go to a swinger’s club

 Swingers clubs are also a great idea if you’re not ready for an escort yet. You can find them online and you’ll definitely love the atmosphere there. However, remember that not everyone in swinger’s clubs is reliable and that escorts are still the best choice, especially if you are new to threesomes.